After a summer of painfully hard camp drop-offs, Harlow is off to kindergarten tomorrow. Is she ready? I honestly have no idea. I’ll tell you that I’m definitely not ready. Both because I can’t believe my baby is SO OLD and because she’s a late birthday and I’m questioning whether we should have held her back a year. Harlow is so tiny. She still hasn’t mastered her letters (although she’s improved greatly.) And I watched how Mazzy struggled a bit in kindergarten when she was also the youngest in her class (although, she’s now caught up.)
Harlow had kindergarten orientation today, which was an hour long with all the parents staying in the classroom.
She was excited to go. She had her outfit all picked out and insisted on taking a backpack full of snacks and water, even though that was totally unnecessary. I tried to convince her to leave it at home but she insisted and I didn’t think that was the thing to fall on my sword over. At least it wasn’t a purse, right?
She put on her “back-to-school necklace” which was designated as her “back-to-school necklace” only after I questioned her about it.
“Harlow, are you wearing that necklace?”
“Yes. It’s my back-to-school necklace.”
Well, okay then.
As you can see from the photo above, she posed for her “first day of school” pic LIKE A BOSS. I mean, Harlow might be bad at drop-off, but the girl knows how to take advantage of a photo opportunity.
Remember when I had to take Mazzy’s “First Day of Kindergarten” photo about 5000X because she could not follow my very simple instructions? Harlow had no such problem. I took literally three photos. The one on top was the very first one. No first day of school photo fails here. (Although, technically since it was the orientation, it was the day before her first day of school, but why split hairs?)
When we arrived, Harlow’s eye lit up when she saw balloons attached to the front steps. “Are those for us???” She walked in, located her name tag and then took the stairs up to her classroom. We met her teachers, mingled with the other kids and I watched as she beelined straight for the play dough at the activity tables.
All good.
She even hung her backpack up on her designated hook. (I should note that it was the ONLY BACKPACK there.)
Then the teacher called all the kids over for circle time. Harlow hung onto my hand and dragged me over with her. The teacher told the parents they could gather around too but Harlow was the only kid who made her mom sit on the floor so she could sit in her/my lap.
Then the teacher went around the circle and had each kid introduce themselves with their name and favorite color.
All the kids did as they were told until Harlow, who was last. She sat there silent.
“Do you want to introduce yourself?” I prodded gently.
Nothing.
“Harlow? Do you want to tell them your name?”
Nope.
“Her name is…” I waited for Harlow to complete my sentence but she said nothing.
“Her name is Harlow. And her favorite color is—”
“Pink,” Harlow chimed in loud enough for everyone to hear. Phew. I guess she didn’t want to risk mom getting that one wrong.
Then we got up, scoped out the classroom some more and headed down to the cafeteria for apples and cookies. At snack, Harlow started coming to life a bit more. She chatted up the little girl next to her. She went to town on her apple. She stole an extra bottle of water to stick in her backpack.
And then it was over. Harlow’s first hour of kindergarten complete.
Full day is tomorrow.
WISH HER/ME LUCK.
Luck! I thought sending the first one to school would be hardest and it was tough in its own way but the loss I felt at sending #2 was unexpected. #3 goes next year so we’ll see how I handle that….. badly, no doubt.
Harlow will rock it. I think you’ll have done the right thing sending her now, you strike me as a parent who has a very clear grasp on what her kids need and when and are very in tune to their characters and even if it takes her a while to warm up, that girl is going to be a little star.
Agreed! I was excited for my oldest to start school but the baby going is going to kill me!!
I disagree with the above, you’ve publically questioned on numerous occasions whether sending her is the right thing … listen to your gut, not your daycare needs! Though if all else fails you can just have her repeat K next year and catch up. It might make for a long year this year but it all works out in the end.
I think all parents question if their kids are ready – My 4.5 year old had her first day of 4K today and I questioned the same thing! I know she will flourish and do fine but it’s just me being nervous! And mommyshorts has never had a problem with daycare needs. Harlow has been in some sort of school for awhile now and I’m sure she will be just fine! Yay for back to school!
What a doll! #3 has a late birthday and my hubby and I wish we would’ve waited an extra year to send her. Not only did she cry for two months if see didn’t see me at pickup but she was so afraid of her teacher (she no longer teaches Kinder 🙌🏼). The other reason we wish would’ve waited is the maturity. Her best friends are a grade below her but the same age. Also, because she’s an athlete and smaller, would’ve helped in that aspect too. AND entering college at 17, she wasn’t ready to leave and we weren’t ready for her to go. But she’s doing well in her second year of college academically and athletically. Good luck to Harlow! 😊
She’s going to rock it in kindergarten! I sent baby #2 off to Kindergarten yesterday and now I’m sad. Lillie has turned into this wild child because she has to keep her wild-side all bottled up at school.
Harlow #1 (moody Harlow) will slowly vanish and Harlow #2 (crazy, talking, showman one) will come out soon. I promise. It’s like a butterfly leaving a cocoon.
every kid and every parent are different! My daughter was an october baby like me, and we both were on the older end of the spectrum (we both turned 6 shortly after beginning kinder). I always enjoyed being “older”, esp since in high school I could drive myself to school for most of the time (most of soph thru senior yr). I think it was the right move for my daughter in regards to her emotional maturity too, plus I think our cutoff is you have to be 5 by the beginning of August, so she wasn’t even close really!
We have a younger kid for his grade as well. There are ups and downs to both ways…but you have made your decision and I am sure she will do fine. When we decided to send him, we thought a lot about his 18th year…if you hold them back in K, you are also holding them back from starting their adulthood. Is this fair, just because school has become more academic at a younger age? Will she need another year of childhood at any other point? Probably not. Harlow will be Harlow, which is all she needs to ever be. Good luck to all of you tomorrow!
Yay Harlow!! What a big girl and she is going to have so much fun!!!!
Now to you, Ilana…my heart is just breaking for you! My baby girl, who will be starting Kindergarten next year, will also be one of the youngest too. Her birthday is only 3 days before the cut off date. I’m already panicking about it. I’m hoping Harlow loves Kindergarten so I can feel better about not holding our baby girl back one more year. 😉
Nice post! Thanks for sharing.