Since I don't celebrate Christmas, I have always made New Year's Eve the focal point of my holiday festivities.
In my single days, New Year's Eve was a night when parties were heightened with flirty dresses and fancy cocktails and boys that looked much cuter at midnight. The evening would always take so many unexpected twists and turns that you never knew exactly where you were going to end up at midnight— scaling an icy fire escape to get an awesome rooftop view of the ball dropping in Times Square, kissing a handsome stranger from Australia whose name you couldn't get quite right, jokingly accepting a dance-off challenge at a loft party in Tribeca and then watching in horror as an expectant circle of party-goers formed around you… anything and everything was possible.
Later on, when my friends started coupling off, I made a tradition of throwing big pot luck dinners. Using desks and bridge tables and lots of white tablecloths, I would create one long dining room table that would stretch the entire length of my apartment. I'd borrow place settings and silverware from neighbors to make sure that no person was left with something unworthy of New Year's Eve like a paper plate or a plastic champagne glass. My guests didn't bring six packs or bags of chips. They rose to the occasion with crabcakes and short ribs with specific cooking times and fancy serving dishes. One year, a friend whipped up made-to-order crepes for dessert and another year, someone came armed with a blender and a signature cocktail. I always had three playlists worked out— one for before dinner, one for during and one to hit at midnight. It wasn't unpredictable but it was still exactly what New Year's Eve, in my mind, was supposed to be— SPECIAL.
And then we had a baby. If there is anything sad about having a baby (cover your ears, Mazzy), it is the loss of New Year's Eve. Last year we were supposed to have a dinner party with two other couples who also had newborns. Mazzy, at the time, was less than a month old. But one of the babies got sick and as a result we only had one couple over. Which was lovely. But it was no New Year's Eve.
And then there was THIS year. When I compare last year to this year, last year seems like we were partying at Lindsay Lohan-like proportions. THIS New Year's Eve, as opposed to every other eve in the history of eves, I fell asleep before 12am. In fact, I fell asleep so far before midnight, that you could have watched The Lord of the Rings in the time that elapsed between me passing out on the couch and the ball dropping.
The night wasn't a total wash. We went over to my sister's at 6pm for a cocktail with the baby (she drank milk with a water chaser) and got home at around 8pm, a half hour past Mazzy's bedtime (crazy!) Then Mike cooked a delicious steak dinner which we paired with a bottle of red that we had bought on our honeymoon. After dinner, we settled on the couch with our glasses of wine. The last thing I remember was Mike saying, "Put your glass down, you are about to fall asleep and spill your drink".
That was no later than 10pm.
The next thing I knew, Mike and I woke up, startled, still on the couch. After some confusion, we deciphered that it was 5am. Wait— WHAT?? Where did New Year's Eve go? Did the ball drop?
Turns out, it all goes down even when you sleep right through it. Someone was still kissing a stranger and someone else was gallivanting on a rooftop and quite possibly someone else was killing it at a dance-off doing "The Worm". It just probably wasn't someone with a one-year-old.
But that's ok. Cause now I'm thinking— if I did "The Worm" on the floor of a New Year's Eve party*, I can't even imagine the level of disgustingness that would make it's way onto my shirt. And that rooftop must have been freezing. And looking back I could have totally killed myself on that icy firescape! As for that Australian guy? He was hot but who the hell has a name like Lochlund?
My new reality is that no New Year's Eve can beat being clean, warm and snuggled at home with the person you love. You want special? Sneak into the next room to take a peak at your baby while she sleeps. It never gets old.
Speaking of the baby, a good night's sleep sounds like the perfect way to ring in the new year…
To all my readers with children,
May 2011 be filled with lots and lots of precious SLEEP.
Love, Mommy Shorts
• I don't remember what I did at that midnight dance-off because I was drizzunk. But I am pretty positive that I did not, nor have I ever, done "The Worm".
If its any consolation, New Year’s gets better as the kids get older. This year our kids were 7 and 3 1/2 (x2). Our friends all have kids about the same, some older (aka “babysitters”). We have just gotten back to the parties, the dancing, the fancy drinks, etc. In fact, this year I even busted out the perfect LBD and my lovely new high black boots, blew out my hair and went a bit crazy. Even Sophie & Ben stayed up til midnight (and slept in the next day til 10am, even crazier!). So hang in there, it will get better!!!
I feel the same way you do. I LOVE New Year’s. In Russia, it was like a combination of a very fancy Thanksgiving dinner, drinking all night, dancing and waking up to presents under the tree. This year, I made a cocktail party for my younger childless friends, who were dressed up and full of energy. They ate and left to the parties that don’t involve even a mention of the word “kids”. I washed dishes and MADE myself stay up till midnight, the whole time being slightly depressed. But after Diane’s comment, things are looking up.
We had a pretty fab NYE: my sister and her boyfriend (AKA my pro bono manny) came over very early, we fired up the BBQ and grilled everything that had once moved and had a mother, there were fart jokes and inappropriate groping and I invented a cocktail that made the guys frisky (I will call it “The Handsy” from now on.)
C slept from 8 pm, which was awesome… and woke at 6 am, which was NOT, considering we went to bed at 1 and to sleep a lot later.
I blame it on the Handsy.
Last year’s was boring as hell tho. So there IS hope!
We left my sister’s before all of their friends arrived for a party. Then I spoke to her the next day and she told me they ended up GOING OUT at 3am, closing two bars down and coming home at 6am. My first thought was— that will never happen for us again EVER:(
What a coincidence my New Years Eve was nearly identical to yours. I was asleep by 10 and while I felt kinda grumbly about not being able to go out and party, I was quite pleased on New Years Day when I woke up refreshed/without a hangover.
Ingredients for “The Handsey” please!
This is true. The horribleness of having a hangover has increased ten fold since a baby has entered The Morning After Equation.
This is all good information. I can’t wait for THE RETURN OF NEW YEAR’S EVE! I will start planning NOW;)
I thought my New Year’s was going to suck too. My husband was hell-bent on bringing our son to a party at a friend’s house. He was all “We’ll bring the pack n play, he’ll be asleep by 11, it’ll be awesome!” I chuckled to myself and said “Okay, dude. If that’s really how you think it’s going to go, it will be YOUR responsibility to make it go that way.”
Turns out the bastard was right! My son went down in his pack n play (which he had never once slept in before, not even for a nap) at 10pm, woke up once around 11 and went back to sleep in 15 mins, and slept right through the rowdy ruckus going on in the next room until we woke him up at 1:30am to get him in his carseat and take him home.
I’m still getting over the shock of the thing.
Wow! Go Dr. B!
Wait until your daughter has a better social life than you do! And it doesn’t take nearly as long as you would think.
That is amazing. Kudos to you both for throwing caution to the wind and making rowdy ruckus a priority. I will keep this happy tale in mind for next year.
Uh-oh. This sounds terrifying. Do you need a night out? Want to meet for dinner in the city?
I am loving this idea. Think the kids will let us see you without them?
Love the post because it is very close to how we spent NYE with our 5 month old – though sadly we were in bed by 9PM. The plan was to have some champagne after the baby went to bed at 8PM, then watch the Times Square ball drop in NYC at 9PM (we are in CA). Sadly we were tired from drinks we had the night before, and decided to skip the champagne. Then weirdly enough they don’t broadcast the ball dropping out here until midnight in CA, so we just went to bed. It was a little depressing, but I was also happy not to be hungover when the baby woke up at 6:30AM the next morning! I am looking forward to more exciting NYE celebrations in a few years! Oh wait, we plan on having more kids – ok so maybe in more than a few years…..
In fifty years, we will all get together and have the New Year’s Eve Blowout of a lifetime. We’ll bedazzle our mu-mus and wrap streamers around our walkers and then stay up til 12:01am. Here’s to Boca Raton in December 2051!
Don’t tell them. I hear that is the key to EVERYTHING.
My NYE was spent watching children’s movies and eating popcorn with my hubby and kids. Only me and my oldest son made it until midnight. But it was very relaxing. Great story…stopping by from the writer’s workshop.
Well my husband and I actually had plans to go out, but by the time my MIL arrived to watch the kids (all asleep) we were too tired and didn’t make it out at all. 🙁 I know there is hope though. Last year we wouldn’t have even dreamed of going out at all! 😉
Ah, yes, the dreaded asleep before midnight. Every year since we had the girl, I swear that we’re going to have FUN again.
And every year, I’m asleep around 10pm.
Relaxing was definitely not the goal of my pre-baby New Year’s Eve plans but I guess it will have to do. Thanks for stopping by!
Baby steps. Maybe next year you will celebrate by having dinner on your front lawn. And then the following year, you can have a party in your car!
I can stay up till all hours of morning futzing around on my computer but tell me I’m supposed to have FUN? ZZZzzzzzzzz
“My new reality is that no New Year’s Eve can beat being clean, warm and snuggled at home with the person you love. You want special? Sneak into the next room to take a peak at your baby while she sleeps. It never gets old.”
Did I just tear up? What’s wrong with me lol that’s fantastic!
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