Where did I leave off? Oh, that's right. With Mike suggesting a coffee pitstop and me using profanity. Needless to say, we did not stop for coffee.
I hailed the first cab I saw (luckily, the birthing fairies had planted one right outside our building) and jumped in before Mike could mention any prospect of brewed beverages again.
It was about 6am.
Once seated in the cab, without a razor or a hair dryer to distract me, it hit me how much pain I was in.
With my first pregnancy, contractions started in the early morning and slowly escalated throughout the day, until we finally felt it necessary to head to the hospital at 2am. This time, I'd been having contractions for under two hours and wasn't even sure I was going to survive the cab ride.
When we arrived at the hospital, we ran to the maternity wing, went straight to the nurse's station and announced I was in labor.
NURSE: Do you feel like you need to push?
ME: I feel like I need an epidural.
NURSE: Ok, let's get you a room.
They brought me into the initial examination room, tested the baby's heartbeat and told me I was 4cm. dilated.
The next hour was PURE HELL.
You know, that lovely time between when the nurse orders your epidural and you actually get the epidural. The hour you spend lying down with straps around your belly, when you would rather throw yourself out a window than remain still. Of course, lying down lets you fully appreciate the intensity of your contractions, pity the entirety of the female race and contemplate murdering your husband while he texts his friends and munches on a Clif bar as if he is the person in need of energy and sustenance.
Finally, they brought us into "the birthing suite" where I talked to the anesthesiologist. She explained the risks involved while I pretended to listen, all the while thinking— WHATEVER! JUST DO IT ALREADY!!!! PLEASE! BEFORE I HAVE ANOTHER CONTRACT— OH FUUUUUCKKK!!!!!!!!
Once the lecture was over and the papers were signed, Mike was kicked out of the room (giving him that magical moment to purchase a cup of coffee) and the epidural was administered. Fifteen minutes later, all was well.
Wait. What the fuck. What is that crazy pain in my left ass cheek???
ME: Ummm….nurse? I seem to have a crazy pain in my left ass cheek. Do you know what that is?
NURSE: The baby's head is really low. She's probably resting on a nerve.
ME: Oh. Will the epidural make it go away?
NURSE: Probably not.
Awesome. Suddenly, the crazy ass pain seemed ten times worse than my contractions. I could not lie in a way that made me comfortable. Right side, left side, on my back— each position brought it's own breed of ass cheek pain. And pressing the damn epidural button did nothing to help.
ME: MIKE!!! ARE YOU STILL HERE????
MIKE: Yep.
ME: Can you please massage my left ass cheek?
There is very little romance in a birthing suite.
The nurse said I would probably have the baby within the next two hours. So, Mike started making phone calls to our family while I was left to massage MY OWN ASS.
It was at that point, a nervous little intern walked in and asked if we minded if she observed the birth.
NERVOUS INTERN: Hi…. I'm an intern…. Would you mind if I, uhhh…. watched the birth?
ME: Sure, that's fine.
NERVOUS INTERN: Ok, thanks. If you need anything, like… ice chips or… really anything… just let me know.
ME: Great. Would you like to massage my ass?
I'm not sure what happened to the intern after that. I imagine the poor thing slowly backed out of the room, hid behind the ice chip machine, and brainstromed alternative professions.
Soon after, a doctor arrived, started to examine me and asked how I was doing.
DOCTOR: How are you doing?
ME: I have a crazy pain in my left ass cheek.
DOCTOR: Okay! You are fully dilated! Ready to push?
Really? We had been at the hospital for less than three hours. With Mazzy, we were waiting to fully dilate in the birthing suite for over 14 hours. All of a sudden, everything seemed very rushed and informal. And everyone in the room seemed so young! Where were the adults around here???
Before I knew it, Doogie Howser swiftly propped my legs up and pulled back the sheet. That's when I saw my husband visibly shudder.
MIKE: Whoa. Wasn't there a curtain separating us from that stuff last time?
ME: Just don't look!
Then Mike started going on about how everything was happening so much quicker this time, asking if we could push back the birth so he could mentally prepare himself, and repeating that he really really thinks with our first delivery, there was a curtain sheilding his eyes from whatever was happening below my waist.
NURSE: Your husband is really funny.
ME: He's not joking.
DOCTOR: PUSH!!!!!!!!
Seven minutes and three pushes later, at precisely 9:41am, I was being handed our second baby girl.
"Say hello to Harlow Eden!" Mike announced proudly before cutting the umbilical cord.
I think I cried.
I loved Harlow on sight.
Even if she came into this world as a ROYAL PAIN IN THE ASS.
Love that last picture 🙂
I am a first time visitor to your site and loved your story. I read part 1 when I was up with my little one for her first feeding. How excited was I to see part 2 when I was up for her 2nd feeding. As a new mom of a 7 week old, I could absolutely picture your whole saga vividly. I must share that my little one enjoys listening to my laughter except when she is feeding so as I read your story and my belly jiggled her a bit, I had to put up with a lot of disapproving grunts.
I look forward to reading more!
Please excuse my terrible grammar in this post. Did I mention I have a 7 week old?
I’m amazed you have time to blog! Thanks for sharing your story though – so sweet and so funny (although I’m sure you didn’t think so at the time) at the same time. Love the last picture and looking forward to reading more!
She is really beautiful, PITA or not 🙂
Also, yes, the second one comes really fast. Like, speedy gonzales fast. When I woke up with contractions, I actually stayed in bed for half an hour timing them, before Igot up to shower and proceeded to eat TWO breakfasts and tweeted about how I should probably go to the hospital. The baby was born within half an hour of us getting in. No time for painkillers!
I think I may have screamed really loudly. Heh.
The ending made me cry. A happy cry.
They always say the second one usually comes quicker. I was told by my OB (should I have a second one), if my water was to break to “head straight to the hospital and do NOT sneeze”! I went from a long and closed cervix to 9.5cm within a couple of hours and only 20min of pushing. Due to the quick progression, I totally missed out on the epidural!
After I read part one of Harlow’s grand entrance, I had to read about Mazzy’s of course. Thanks for sharing! Both of my girls were induced (for different reasons) so I love to hear birth stories from women who had the whole expeience. (Is that weird?? I think maybe it is…) Anyway, LOVE your blog, and you and Mike make absolutely beautiful babies!
Love the pics! and what an amazing story teller you are. I had an intern too but she had been around for awhile so she knew to stay away until right before shit got real. But she thanked me for learning so much from our midwife that it was so worth it! May she pass on some good tips to the next momma in need!
Also your hair looks amazing! I looked a hot mess, but you are def glowing!
Made me laugh and cry ^.^
so lovely.
that pictre of Harlow with the little bow on her hat slays me.
so happy for you.
just think, the birth went fast. yay?!?!
Your husband is a total hottie. And Harlow is beautiful.
My second birth was just like this – SO much faster than the first. Four hours from my first contraction at home to the moment he was in my arms! I was 4 cm dilated upon entering the hospital, then it took FORTY FIVE minutes for the epidural to come and in that time, I dilated to a 10. Holy hell it hurt. Ben was born about 15 minutes after I got the epidural. Crazy!
Congrats again, so happy for you! 🙂
I literally laughed and cried. What a wonderful storyteller you are and congrats on your second beautiful baby girl! She looks a lot like Mike in the first picture after the copy. Good thing Mike’s a “total hottie” according to several sources. xoxo
Just beautiful. Thanks for sharing. NOW GO TO SLEEP! ;p
Wasn’t there some coffee incident involved with Mazzy’s birth too?
Sorry about the pain, but be glad it went fast!
And mazel tov on having your second beautiful baby girl!
So happy for you & yours, Ilana. She’s beautiful!
First of all…CONGRATS! She is just perfect. Secondly, Your hair looks freakishly amazing to have just given birth. After having my son, my hair looked like someone had taken an egg beater to it the entire time I was pushing.
So so so so so so happy for you all! And in true Ilana style – thanks for sharing H.E.’s birth story 🙂 So awesome.
Hope your ass is ok.
Just awesome.
I’m sorry, I’m sorry… I laughed at your expense. You are just so damn funny.
You look amazing in picture #1, your husband is a cutie in picture #2 and Oh look! A picture where her eyes are open! in picture number three. Congratulations, virtual friend, on your beautiful family! I loved the picture of Mazzy and Harlow the other day. It was beautiful. 🙂
Thank you for sharing your story! Congratulations again! 🙂 By the way, your blog is the one I read the most and look forward to the most. That’s why I comment so much. 🙂 I can’t wait to read more about Harlow and Mazzy!
With my first baby I had an epidural. Naturally I needed my legs to be held while I was pushing. My dear, sweet, husband held one of my legs for less than two minutes before declaring, and I quote, “your leg is too heavy, I can’t do this.” Thank goodness for both of our mothers or the poor guy would have had to suffer through holding my leg for me. Labor is so hard for men. And yes, I still give him crap for that comment.
I wish labor was as entertaining as reading your account of it. LOL – arrived as royal pain in the ass. Seriously, you can’t make that kind of stuff up! She’s gorgeous, and you are a lovely family. I love all the shots, especially one of you and Mike kissing Harlow on the head. And just 3 pushes and she was out. Wow!
Oh, that last picture is precious!
This was how my labor went with Lil’ Bit – contractions came on super fast. It was “highly unusual” for a first pregnancy, according to one nurse. Given that, I shudder to think how it might be the second time around. Good thing we’re done and done.
Just laughed so hard I cried! Good luck with your 2 babies; mine are 21 months apart and it’s no joke. Shit really did just get real! It is amazing though. My youngest is 4 months and now they are starting to interact, which is awesome. Best of luck!
My #2 came out really fast as well…OK I just realized that sounded horribly wrong although pretty accurate. But anyways my #2 BABY came out so fast the doctor wasn’t ready and literally asked me, “OK, wait…don’t push yet”…and I’m all like, “I’m NOT PUSHING!” and BAM a hairy little head pops out from below just as my doctor puts on her last glove… I think this is probably coz baby #2 can’t wait to come out and upstage Baby #1 and steal all the thunder. Just my theory, btw I was also a baby #2 😉
I am officially envious of all the short birthing stories. Both of my boys were long, drawn out births with a bit of drama both times. Then my husband complained for several days about the pull out bed killing his back. Meanwhile I had a hemorrhoid bigger than my ass cheeks from pushing for 2.5 hours (baby number two).
Love love love. That is all. 🙂
Thank you so much for Telling it like it Is!!! I have 5 kids. Each birth was different, with different obstacles, joys and funny moments. Thanks for sharing yours!
What a funny story! My husband came back into our birthing suite after our son was born with a giant to-go daiquiri(we live in Louisiana). His comment was “This is my epidural.”
Congratulations! Baby Harlow is beautiful, that last photo is precious and I think it must be said….You’re hair looks beautiful too 😀
Can’t wait to see Mazzy and Harlow together
sqweee! I love it!!!
I still don’t think you can beat my last one when I had the baby removed via c section and right at that moment one of the doctor’s ringtones on his cell went off and guess what it was playing? GUESs?
“Let’s get it on.”
First: Why is an OB/GYN using that for his ringtone
Second: Let’s not get it on. Let’s get some morphine and stay the heck away from each other.
I love Harlow though, she’s beautiful and perfect and I don’t feel bad for Mike at all. Just saying.
Congratulations, welcome to crazy! My second came so fast I didn’t believe my doula when she told me baby was out! (arrived 3 minutes after walking through the door of the birth center) My first words to my daughter were “holy shit” as in “Can I still get an epidural?!”
I forgot to tell you about that!!
(kicking myself in my own royal ass)
Yes, birthing gets quicker with each one. My first took about 13 hrs from first contraction to delivery. The second took 7 hrs from start to finish. And with number 3? I didn’t think I was going to make it out of the parking lot.
Beautiful, congrats! And wow, I’m not looking forward to contractions the second time… ignorance is bliss the first nine months.
Am I the only person on the planet whose husband was practically begging me to get the epidural hours before I finally caved? I’m not one to complain about pain a whole lot, so I think seeing me in pain with those contractions nearly killed him.
Congratulations on your perfectly healthy and adorable little girl! After 16 hours of labor with my first, I’m definitely hoping the second child comes much faster. Then maybe I can stay awake for visitors!
laughing the whole time reading it. Did I miss her name story though? She’s absolutely gorgeous and you LOOK GREAT! your hair is perfect! congratulations. but more importantly, how’s your left ass cheek now?!
Oh my goodness, that last line. And that last picture. Both wonderful. 🙂 So glad she’s here with her family. Congrats again, my friend! xo
YAY!!! So my first baby came into the world in 6 hours. Guess I should really be prepared if there is ever another one…
Congrats!!!
Love the pics! Can’t believe you only had to push for 7 minutes! That. is. amazing. Too bad about the ass thing though.
I’m usually a faithful lurker, but I just have to say – I love this story…I can totally relate as it is VERY similar to my #2’s entrance into the world…thanks for sharing. She is beautiful.
Must have Mazzy reaction post! Congrats again!
Aw, she is sweet. Congrats again. I hope you got coffee. xo
So glad she made it here safely! But what I really wanted to say was that your hair looks amazing!
Love love love the story. I can totally relate, when people would come to visit us after the birth of our first, they would ask “how was it” and my husband would reply ok, but next time I have to wear more comfortable shoes, I stood forever”.
sigh
Congrats, welcome Harlow, it is going to be so much fun! Mazzy will be the best big sister!
You are such a wonderful storyteller, Ilana. I love how your writing is so real and frank and funny, but also so filled with love. You really capture the essence of life. Congratulations on bringing another beautiful child into this world. Looking forward to your next post (as always). Lots of love to you and your whole family!
PS- I am 6 weeks preggers and filled with terror reading all of these birth story comments…HA!
You are all very brave!!!
I can’t read any more of your birth stories. I end up in happy tears. Thank goodness there’s no part three or I’d be a puddle. Beautiful pictures. So, so happy for you.
Loved it! I know it was awful at the time, but you tell it fabulously. “Great. Would you like to massage my ass?”
Seriously dying over here.
I actually went into labor right before my c-section. That was a race against the clock I didn’t want to lose.I was about to anesthetize myself and drag all two billion pounds of me into the operating room.
Good job, she’s beautiful!
I don’t think I’ve laughed this hard in over a year! My husband just walked in and said, “You’re messed up” because I had to admit I was dying, laughing hysterically at a perfect stranger’s blog post about birth – and trying not to wake our 16 month old. Thank you so much for sharing. I love your blog. But I agree with the others- you should be sleeping!
Your hair looked awesome.
(baby adorable too, but you know that’s a given 🙂
Take that, interns!
Congrats!!!!!!
OMG. All teary now from those last pictures. Love.
Every word reminds me of my first delivery right down to the profanity-my husband ate chicken wings, because he was hungry, while I rolled from side to side in a delirious combination of nausea and pain, with a pain in my right ass cheek!
Second daughter, he yelled at me to get out of the tub so we could go to the hospital, I had to shave my legs and decided to go when pain hit me again in the right as cheek, and yes there was more profanity, my doctor who was a little hung over quietly asked me to stop yelling and swearing and push, which gave me my second daughter!
Your baby is beautiful, best wishes to you all!
Omg same thing happened to me! I was dying while waiting for and getting my epi. And then as soon as I got it, I had TERRIBLE contraction like pain in my left thigh. Turns out his head was way down low and like 20 minutes later I was having him. Never even had to get cathed. Should have just skipped the damn thing.
That reminds me of my first birth when I told my own husband to fuck off. He’s since forgotten about it, I haven’t.
I’m 2 days away from my due date, and your story (SO fantastically told) gives me a preview of what is in my (hopefully) immediate future (aside from the ass pain). I read it out loud to my mom who’s here for the anticipated birth, and we just couldn’t get enough. Congratulations to you and your family!
I just found you & am so glad I did! I just read Harlow’s birth story and have never laughed so hard in my life! Seriously, I’m at work with tears running down my face, unable to stop! You are hilarious! I love how you write. And your daughters are simply gorgeous!! Congratulations!
I am 6 months preggers trolling the internet for mommy blogs. I LOVED THIS!! thanks for laugh 🙂 beautiful story!
OMG I just laugh laugh and laugh! Thanks for sharing
Loved your story.Thanks for sharing.
She’s gorgeous! Also, time well-spent on your hair. I thought I might be going into labor this morning so I did the same – took a shower, tried to look nice – and my hair looks like crap. Glad I didn’t go into labor because now I have another shot to make it look good. That said, I’m sure I’ll go into labor at some awkward time and won’t even get to take a shower. Damn.
Beautiful ♥ Also, you’re hilarious!
I remember every moment of my youngest’s birth as well… Every little detail! I certainly wished it had gone as well as yours! Haha. 18 hours of labor and 7 with a faulty epidural before we met him via c/s. I will have to say though, I did the same thing. Woke up at 4am, had no clue my water broke! When I realized it had I showered and then woke my husband up and called my mom to be with our then almost 2 year old! My hair didn’t look as great as yours! Haha. You looked beautiful!!! =]
The reference to the pain in your ass cheek made me laugh so much I woke my own baby who is asleep on my chest. Harlow is a cutie
Reading this actually made me wish I were having another one! I know that the birth is not the best part, but holding that new baby is something I miss!