Getting gifts for a new mom is easy. They know nothing and they need EVERYTHING. Getting gifts for a mom having her second child? That’s a little tougher. They’ve already got all the necessary gear, they don’t need or want any more toys and you probably can’t “wow” them with a newfangled baby product because they’ve been there, done that.
So what’s a lady going to a “sprinkle” to do?
(For those not in the know, a “sprinkle” is a “shower” for a mom who has already been around the block at least once. I just learned this myself.)
Instead of getting gifts for the baby, I recommend getting gifts with the mom in mind. The dad too, while you’re at it. You know what my sister decided is her new go-to gift for a second mom? MY BOOK. Yep, that’s right. “The Mommy Shorts Guide to Remarkably Average Parents.” Because by the time you get to number two, you know “perfect parenting” is a big charade and we’d all be a lot happier if we didn’t pretend that raising kids was a piece of cake.
For this month’s swag bag, I partnered with Plum Organics to put together a “Second Baby Survival Kit” to get you through the newborn phase AGAIN. Plum Organics has been a huge supporter of my book (even sponsoring my book tour) because they share my desire to celebrate the realities of parenthood. We both believe that by talking about the ups and downs of having a new baby, like in Plum Organic’s #ParentingUnfiltered campaign, we help normalize the experience for everyone.
Remember when you had your first kid and you thought you had to make all your baby food from scratch? HAHAHA. Those days were hilarious. Why make your life difficult when somebody has already done it for you? Plum’s brand new Eat Your Colors line comes in six vibrant colors which is a great way to get your baby to experiment with different foods and take in some extra nutrients too.
You know what parents of two or more kids need more than anything? A NIGHT OUT. What stops them? Lack of childcare and lack of planning. On Urban Sitter you can find trusted sitters at a moment’s notice, recommended by people in your community.
3) Lifefactory Wine Glasses
Do I need to explain why parents need to relax with a glass of red every once in awhile? These wine glasses provide extra grip and protection and maybe prevent a spill or two. If they don’t prevent a spill, at least they prevent them shattering on the floor.
Once you’ve dealt with your baby eating your phone, gnawing on shoulder and using your sunglasses like a chew toy, you realize you need a more foolproof teething plan in place. Chewbeads are the one thing you own that you won’t mind if it winds up in your baby’s mouth. In fact, that’s the point.
5) Ear plugs
When you finally decide to sleep train the baby, these “I’m Not Listening” Ear Plugs will come in handy. They’ll also come in handy when you breastfeed the baby and don’t want to hear your toddler screaming for help in the other room. You’ll get to him eventually.
6) “Stick a Cork in it” Pacifier
I remember “pacifier” vs. “no pacifier” being quite the debate when my first was a baby. Would it mess up her teeth? Would she become too dependent on it? Would she use the pacifier straight up through grade school??? Nope. The answer is NOPE. Both my girls used pacifiers religiously when they were little and we took them away when the doctor told us too (around 18 months), with way less drama than we imagined. I say, it it helps, “Stick a Cork in it.” The pacifier can be a total sanity saver.
7) Adult Coloring Book
When both kids are finally down for the count, what’s a mom to do? Sleep when the baby sleeps? NAH. Let off some steam with the Swear Word Coloring Book for Parents. Since your kids probably can’t read, feel free to color when they are wide awake too.
8) Assortment of Plum Snacks
Nothing makes parenting easier more than well-received snacks. Pre-packaged single serve snacks that you can toss in a diaper bag like Plum’s Little Yums Teething Wafers, Mashups, Mighty Snack Bars are what makes the world go round. Puffs were my go-to to keep my baby seated at a restaurant before the food was served. Now, Plum’s Super Puffs come in a larger variety of nutrient-packed flavors. And I can’t say enough good things about Plum Mighty Dinos. We go through a pack a day at my office and we don’t even have any children in here!
9) Sleep is Overrated Candle
This Strong Cup of Coffee-scented candle will keep you awake when you know going to bed is futile. You’ll just need to get up in a couple of hours anyway. Plus it can help you feel rejuvenated in the morning after another sleepness night. Did I mention that the scent can do wonders to hide that diaper pail stench?
10) Grounds for Change Coffee & Numi Tea
If the candle doesn’t do the trick, maybe actually ingesting caffeine will help. Grounds for Change produces fair trade organic coffee, including this bag of their Cafe Femenino blend from Peru. If tea is really more your thing, the Numi Tea Mini Sampler has 8 different teas for you to try.
11) Dry Shampoo
It’s called Dirty Secret for a reason. New moms don’t have time to shower everyday and new moms of baby #2 don’t have time to shower at all. But nobody has to know that if you’ve got the right dry shampoo.
12) Dark Chocolate Sea Salt Truffles
I’ll meet you in the kitchen to sample these Dark Chocolate Sea Salt Truffles from Alter Eco. What? You don’t see me? Try crouching down behind the counter so you’re not in your toddler’s line of view. There I am!
13) Basq NYC Bright Eyes
Remember how I said sleep is overrated? Somehow your undereye bags didn’t get the message. Hopefully, this cucumber eye cream will help with your dark circles, because we both know your sleep schedule isn’t getting any better for at least the next five years.
14) A signed copy of my book!
As I said, there is no better gift for parents of a second child than to tell them that’s it’s going to be a shit show for a little bit, but that’s okay. The shit show happens to us all. If you want to find out when the good stuff starts, turn to Page 154, which is titled “Why You Should Have Two Kids.” You can buy “The Mommy Shorts Guide to Remarkably Average Parenting” here.
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This post was sponsored by Plum Organics, but all thoughts and opinions are my own.