Mike and I finally told Mazzy about the baby. You'd think with my stomach looking like it's housing an award-winningly large watermelon, she would have caught on by now, but apprently, my daughter isn't nearly as bright as I gave her credit.
The news went over rather uneventfully. We asked Mazzy again if she wants a little sister. She said, no. And then we said, well, too bad because you are getting one.
Then she asked to play "Snake" which means we chase her making ssssssssss-ing sounds and she runs away screaming. It's basically the opposite of the low-energy games I was talking about yesterday.
About ten minutes later, after re-enacting a low-budget version of Anaconda grew incredibly boring for two of us, Mike and I tried a different line of questioning.
"Do you know what's in Mommy's tummy?"
Mazzy responded with great interest.
"Now I be the snake and you be scared. SSSsssssssssssss!!!!!!"
After five more minutes of half-assed screaming (I'm really nailing the J.Lo role!), we tried again. This time with a straight-ahead matter-of-fact approach.
"Mazzy. There's a baby in Mommy's tummy."
"A baby?"
"Yes."
"Sssssssssssss!!!!!!"
"Let's stop playing for a second. There's a baby in my tummy. It's going to be your little sister."
"There's a baby in your tummy?"
"Yes." Thank god, she was finally getting it.
"Can I see it?"
I pulled up my shirt.
"It's right there?" She pointed to my belly.
"Yes."
She stuck her finger in my belly button. "This is a baby?"
"Yes."
Then she pulled her shirt up and pointed to her belly button. "I have a baby?"
"No. Your belly button isn't a baby. The baby is inside my belly. You can't see it."
"Oh. Can I feed it?"
"Sure."
She pretended to fill something in her play kitchen, came back over and tipped a tea saucer directly into my navel.
I tried to play along. "She says thank you. She's full now."
"She didn't say thank you!"
"You're right. She didn't say thank you. But she is thinking it."
"Oh."
"Do you want to put your hand on my belly and see if you can feel her kick?"
"NO!!!! NO KICKING!!!!!!"
"Right, right. No kicking. Kicking is very bad. Never kick. Do you want to feel her move?"
"No. Let's play snake. Sssssssssss!!!!!! YOU BE SCARED!!!!"
"Aaaaaaaah!!!!"
And the moment was over.
That was about two weeks ago. Since then, I have been getting a big kick out of asking Mazzy what's in my tummy in front of other people.
"A BABY!!!" she shouts proudly, knowing she has the right answer.
Next, I ask my follow-up question. "Who is that baby going to be?"
"MY SISTER!" she replies, like a well-trained dog.
Everybody laughs and smiles and all is right with the world.
Then Mazzy says, "Let me show you!" and tries to hike my shirt up over my bra and stick her fingers in my belly button and I wonder why I even bother to leave the house.
Yesterday there was finally a breakthrough. Mazzy and I were playing alone in the living room when she said something totally unprompted.
"I have a present for the baby."
"Really? What?"
She took off her beaded cat watch and placed it on top of my belly.
And with that one small gesture, my excitement grew tenfold at what's to come.
I have two girls, 6 and 1. The relationship they share is the best thing I have ever witnessed. I am excited for you.
Stop putting babies in bags! And definitely do not swing them!
When my sister-in-law was pregnant with my 2nd nephew, if you asked my 1st nephew what was in Mommy’s tummy, he’d proudly announce, “PIZZA!” 🙂
That is so cute!!! You’re little girl sounds like she DEFINITELY keeps your life interesting…just think about when you have 2 of those…ha, maybe the second will be mellow and they will cancel each other out…one can hope 🙂
Oh, wow. Tears. So lovely!
Thanks for the morning cry, and mazel tov.
p.s. Now’s the time to start practicing, “No, the baby can’t have that, Mazzy. That’s really nice that you want to share that small rock/shard of glass/Limited Edition Choking Hazard Barbie with the baby, but she’s too little to play with that.”
Oh. My. Goodness. That is the sweetest thing. LOVE!
We had a book about babies, explaining how mommies go to the hospital and are gone for a while, and how things are different when they get home. He loved that book.
He was also wonderful with her as an infant.
Then she became mobile and The Tackler was born. All bets were off.
Sometimes I wish I’d had them in reverse order so the older one would be more “mothering”.
And yeah, the bracelet thing totally made me go “awww..”
Awww, thats too sweet.
She would be a perfect big sister for the baby.
So true! I have a 2yo and a 5.5 month old & daily our conversations are….no your sister can’t have goldfish, stop putting the goldfish on the bouncer! Yes your sister is napping again (too bad you won’t), thank you for giving your sister a kiss – you are the sweetest big sister ever 🙂
Love the whole story, but my heart grew three times bigger with the end 🙂 How sweet!
Too cute! I remember when we were going through the adoption process we asked our son if he wanted a brother or a sister. He told us “No! I want a dog.”. It was too funny.
Now that he does have a sister he loves her very much and they get along pretty well.
OH my heart. She will be an incredible big sister. xoxo
This is an adorable story. When your second daughter grows up and reads this someday she’ll know her big sister loved her before she was even born!
“Limited Edition Choking Hazard Barbie” – OMG…that could be the funniest toy name EVER.
Tears. Stop it.
That made me tear up. So excited for you. Having two is amazing. Hard as hell at first – but then amazing! I’m seven months in and it gets more awesome every day. Good luck with everything!
I’m pretty hormonal right now, expecting my second boy in November and that last part made me cry. congratulations!
I remember being so worried how my eldest would deal with going from an only to a shared. I remember hoping that she and her new sibling would have a good sister bond but wondering how it would occur when they were 6 years apart … such different ages and stages. But from the time baby 2 was born and I called my eldest and heard her excited shriek “I have a SISTER!!!” with a tone of such joy and pride … I have never had a doubt.
And now as I live through their bickering (the competition and fighting escalated exponentially as baby reached age 3 and got her full vocabulary accompanied with opinions!) I realize that sibling skirmishes are inevitable but unlikely to affect the underlying love – as witnessed by my youngest frequently, spontaneously, wrapping her hands around her sister and squealing in the way only a preschooler can “I just love you soooooooooo much!!”; and my eldest having a teary moment one night, telling me that she was teary because “I just can’t help picturing what I would do if something happened to my sister … I just love her so much! She is the best thing that ever happened to my life”.
I don’t really know you – but from what I do know – there is not a shadow of doubt in my mind but that Mazzy and baby will share an incredible lifelong undeniable sister bond. After all – they are both starting out sharing amazing parents, what better foundation is there than that?
So cute! I’m pretty hormonal now (only I’m not preggo!) and that last part got me too. There really is nothing better than watching the relationship between your babies.
If that isn’t the sweetest big sister-to-be story I’ve ever read I don’t know what is!
Very sweet! I am always amazed that these kids don’t notice mom’s body is changing! Definitely expect her to ask everyone with a protruding belly if they have a baby in their belly…not that she’s clued in. It’s mortifying for all involved. Also, we asked our older to give the baby a temporary name which was great fun for her! Thank goodness Foo foo Chee chee didn’t stick!
So sweet – you won’t be disappointed, seeing your babies together is about the best thing ever. Until it isn’t, but by then it’s too late. 😉
Oh man, they are going to have the best time together! Yay for sisters! (always wished I had had one…)
Sweet, sweet, sweet post.
Makes me wish Brody was just a little older to comprehend all of that when I was pregnant the second time. But then telling him there were 2 brothers in there probably would have had him packing his bags.
Enjoy what is to come!
What a darling.
Hide this post in the time capsule for ten years, and whip it out when the girls are having a spat. Then make sure you have 1,000 more adorable notes to cure further spats…and see when this tactic loses potency.
Awww. Kids… they break your heart, but they can also surprise the hell out of you. And that rush of happiness you get in the wake of a kind and unprompted gesture has got to be worth the heartbreak stemming from all the indifference and insolence. Right?
RIGHT???
Beautiful post. And yet, for some sick reason, it reminded me of this completely inappropriate cartoon:
http://www.thecomicstrips.com/store/add_strip.php?iid=78120
Enjoy!
The gift for the baby brought a tear to my eye.
Remember my photo on Instagram where Monkey is cuddling the baby?
Yeah, you’ll get those. A lot.
Also, a lot of the toddler trying to sit on the baby/ trying to lift the baby/ trying to ‘feed’ the baby his bread/ ‘patting’ him on the belly.
It’s literally shits and giggles.
CANNOT wait til Mazzy meets her sister.
What a cute convo with Mazzy about the baby! Pulling up your shirt in public, yea, that sounds about right ;). Glad she knows all the answers :). How awesome she gave a present to her lil sister! Can’t wait to see their relationship unfold right here online.
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
Ack! I’m doing it wrong! I should have thought of something more clever. Maybe I’ll try to reprogram her to say something like— “Ryan Gosling’s child!”
Thank you so much for this comment. I don’t really know you either but I feel like I get to know you better every day. I so appreciate how much you put yourself out there on my blog— both the funny stuff and the sentimental.
My sister is the greatest gift my parents ever gave me so I can only hope that Mazzy feels the same. Fingers crossed!
My children are 2.5 and .5. And if I had a nickel for every time someone asked me when I was pregnant if my daughter was excited about having a new brother… Um, first of all, she didn’t really have the verbal skills to tell me. And secondly, I think it’s really hard for them to understand at that age that there’s actually a baby in there. Why WOULD it make any sense??
I was really scared about how she would react when the reality really set in in part BECAUSE it was so difficult to get a read from her while I was pregnant. But from the moment she saw him for the first time she was absolutely in love. And even in her moments of being completely evil/two to me, she is always kind and loving towards her brother. She’d take him over me any day! I wish the same for you!! (And I’m going to come back to read this when he becomes mobile and she wants to kill him for touching her toys.)
Such a sweet story – and an adorable watch! I’d love to know who makes it and where you got it, if you have a moment.
I am cracking up and reminiscing about introducing our #2 in my tummy earlier this year… My face was when my girl tried to pull my shirt up in public too… Yeah that wasn’t awkward at all (but funny… Thinking that Mazzy and mine would be double trouble…) but now that she knows, gotta get her on board for when baby arrives. Here’s what I tried…. It worked like magic even if it made me into a looney for a few months: http://thefabmom.com/2012/08/27/one-way-to-brainwash-baby-1-before-baby-2-comes-yes-i-did-this/
Btw: Congrats and ENJOY! 2 girls is the best (But I’m biased) 😉
I feel the same way about my brothers; So thankful to have them in my life. I was an only child for 15 years and then two brothers came along. It is really priceless to have other people “in the same boat” of life with me. My brothers have formed my whole view on siblings. I did not mind being an only child but having siblings is so much better. I hope to give my future kids the same experience someday.